either support us in our life, support us in our goals, or hinder us. Words do matter. Words do help to create your environment and create your goals. What phrases and sayings do you use? Are you even conscious of what you say? Let’s examine some common phrases and notice how they can affect your life. Read on…you’ll be amazed!

One of the easiest examples to begin is “I’m sick and tired of driving back and forth.” Now, if this driving back and forth relates to your job, how does your brain perceive these words? The words “sick and tired, convey a message to your unconscious to feel a certain way. When arriving at work, would you rather feel “sick and tired”, or “awake and healthy”?

How about “I’d just die to have tickets to that game”? Does the phrase “I’d just die” convey to your brain a positive healthy request? Certainly not!

What about some of these? Are they in your vocabulary?
“This job is killing me.”
“I feel ill every time I hear that.”
“My stomach is all knotted up.”
“I feel like I’m drowning with everything I have to do.”
“I’d kill to have a bite of that cake.”
“I’ll probably get it, it runs in my family.”

Now, let’s look at some less obvious phrases. What about “There’s no way I could ever do that.” This statement stops any forward momentum. What a way to limit yourself!! Changing this phrase to “Let me think about what would need to happen in order for me to do that”, keeps the brain moving forward. It leaves the possibility open that it could happen.

And the grand finale that really hit home for me, “I really want to quit work.” The phrase sounds so harmless. It looks like a person that just wants a new job or to perhaps stay at home with children. I heard this over and over. Eventually he left his job. He’d gotten what he’d continually repeated over and over to himself and others. He was now staying home… although staying home meant taking care of himself because he’d developed a serious debilitating illness, which meant he had to quit work. His language came true to life, he just never in a million years expected it to turn out the way it did.

Your language DOES matter. Be conscious and speak the way you want your life to be.

Kim
5/06

listen, how to sit while we’re listening to show interest, and to avoid letting our minds wander and be attentive to the speaker.

For most of us, the lives we’ve created take us from meeting to meeting, activity to activity, and between all of these, we’re doing all the things necessary to run a household. Our lives can become almost robotic.

With the schedules we keep and our developed skills for listening, Do you Listen? Do you really listen internally? Our most powerful information can come at times when we’re quiet and listening. So now we can take the skills we’ve already learned and apply them. Sit quietly and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths. Create a mental shelf and put all of the things that jump into your head on the mental shelf. For me, sometimes my one shelf can turn into a whole Walk-in Closet! Eventually your mind will stop wandering. Now, be attentive to the speaker… your inner voice. Just listen. You’ll be amazed at what insights and information you can gain. You can ask questions and get answers that are true for you. The best part is this whole process takes just a few minutes. You can do it in a parking lot in your car or sitting at your desk or in a hot bubble bath. In just 2-3 minutes, you are calmer, more centered, more relaxed and more informed. Practice this just a few times a week and notice the differences for yourself.

May you find all your answers inside yourself… with just a little listening.

Kim
3/06

One reason why a dog is such a lovable creature is that his tail wags instead of his tongue.

Real friends are those who, when you've made a fool of yourself, don't feel that you've done a permanent job.

The door to the human heart can be opened only from the inside.

How seldom we weigh our neighbor in the same balance with ourselves.

We like someone because. We love someone although.

Let us be the first to give a friendly sign, to nod first, smile first, speak first, and - if such a thing is necessary - forgive first.

The light of friendship is like the light of phosphorus, seen when all around is dark.

Love sees through a telescope - not a microscope.

   Love is shown in all the little things... helping someone on with a jacket, holding that door open a few extra seconds so it doesn't slam in her face, and taking time to pamper yourself with a warm, relaxing bath. Loving yourself, your body, your mind, your behaviors (at least most of them!) and your spirit, is most important of all.

   Take time this Valentine's Day to reflect on the Love you share with those around you, the difference you make in this world and what you Love about yourself.

   May your Valentine's Day be an Expression of Love both in and around YOU,

Kim
2/06

I am a Champion and I will WIN!

Three-time Olympian Ruben Gonzalez
2/05